Have you ever had a day where you suddenly felt like doing something special for someone in your life, to express your love and appreciation for them? I have lots of times in the past and again just the other night.
Imagine this: everyone is complaining about the heat wave with such high humidity that there have been warnings for people with asthma, which I do happen to have, but... I suddenly got this urge to cook up not only one but two of my daughter's favorite meals to surprise her.
Showing gratitude, after all, doesn't have to be the result of something big that the recipient did for us. It can simply be for something small or even just a sudden surge of love we feel for them, out of nowhere special or specific.
Perhaps you also suddenly felt like cooking someone's favorite meal, or maybe you chose to take them out to eat, or purchased something at a store that you knew they would really appreciate as soon as you saw it. Giving without wishing for anything in return, no ulterior motive, simply a sincere gift from the heart.
Giving from our heart, without expecting to receive anything in return, an unconditional gift, without even secretly wishing for praise for our deed is a way of expressing our love and appreciation from within. And when we do that sincerely, our loved ones will usually understand the true depths of our love and adoration - with no sense of obligation to reward us with a gift of their own in return. But if you're as lucky as I was, you might also discover a little treat left for you as a surprise the next day.
How sweet it is to express and receive signs of love and appreciation!
Give it a try. You don't even need to be married or in a long-term relationship because you can do this with any loved one - a child, sibling, parent, or friend. And, who knows, it just might become a habit for you and yours.
Sharon Shenker Founder, Divorce Support Plus